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Humility

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Humility

If we succeeded in all we try to do it would be much harder to learn humility.  Mistakes often lead to invention.  If only we can get over regret for what we didn’t do and try to discover what we could have done differently.  All life is an experiment and sometimes these don’t turn out as expected.

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Dental Phobia

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Dental Phobia

It is recommended that children and adults visit the dentist every six months.  For many people this is just a part of their healthcare routine.  For others it is a time of dread and worry leading to prevarication and anxiety as the appointment is delayed and put off for as long as possible. I  thought it might be useful to give a selection of the types of issues people have come to me with about dental visits and maybe you will recognise something here that will help you take action to cure your anxiety for good. Fear of the drill, fear of injections, adverse childhood memories or experiences, fear of gagging, worry that there may be something seriously wrong because of the length of time since the last visit, fear of the suction devise, swallowing the filing, jaw breaking, panic attacks, fear of sight of blood, fear of being sick, germs and infections, fear of pain, death, fear of x-rays, choking, gagging, making a fool of oneself, loss of control, fainting, shame that you haven’t visited the dentist and so have bad teeth, embarrassment for not brushing teeth correctly or that teeth are stained from drinking or smoking.  I have also helped clients who are afraid that they will be taken advantage of either financially or in some other inappropriate manner. It is normal, perhaps, to dislike a visit to the dentist – however the health of our teeth and mouths in important for a good, long and active life. Whilst some dental anxieties may be understandable, it is simple, straightforward and quick to put you back in control of the situation.  Analysis can be used to understand and resolve issues surrounding previous bad experiences if they exist.  In addition, you can be taught relaxation and self-hypnosis techniques which will allow you to pass the time on the dentist’s chair  in a tranquil and calm fashion so that the treatment can be carried out swiftly. Dental phobia and anxieties are an area that is very effectively treated using hypnotherapy.  Many dentists work with good hypnotherapists because they understand the value of this treatment and because dentists themselves want their clients to have a good stress free visit to the clinic.  You can either contact me on eve@evestanway.com or else speak to your own dentist about hypnotherapy for dental...

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Stop Smoking

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Stop Smoking

Thank you for your email. Probably the easiest thing is for you to give me a call when you have a spare 10 minutes and we can talk about how to proceed and when we can meet. The way I do my smoking cessation work is to speak to my clients on the telephone beforehand to find out if they are ready to quit.  When they are (and I would rather take time to get this right as hypnotherapy doesn’t work long term until the person is absolutely ready), we will arrange a single two hour meeting involving some analysis and some hypnotherapy.  After this they client will be a non-smoker. I am confident about this approach because firstly the client is fully prepared and secondly because I offer continuing back up and support so if anything stressful, difficult or unexpected (i.e. the kinds of things that tend to lead to relapse) occur then my clients will contact me to resolve the issue without smoking, which after all never resolved anything!  The charge for the complete treatment is £195.00. My phone number is 07977 420 861.  Please give a me a call and we can talk about this further.  If I can’t get to the phone, I may be with a client, so leave a message and I will call you back. I look forward to hearing from you. All the...

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Anxiety

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Anxiety

Brief Therapy – Dealing with Anxiety Part of the process is starting to separate out “how” you are thinking about things rather than “what” you are thinking about. Also noticing the benefit of giving yourself time to consider responses before responding. In general the work we do together will help you to have better strategies to counter anxious thoughts.  The way it works is that by having and using these strategies the anxiety has less to get hold of and so the habit of being anxious (and it is largely a habit) reduces.  In some ways this is the same way that all habits are reduced.  The second part is building up your confidence and belief in yourself so that you are less prey to the worries and negative feelings that fuel anxious thoughts.  The people around you may not be providing you with the kind of positive feedback that would help build your confidence.  However in the end we are capable of generating all the confidence and self-belief we need for ourselves.  Our work will help with...

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Bad Habits

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Bad Habits

Dialogue on Nose Picking Now to matters “Picky”.  Humans, (and many animals) have certain behaviours that we learn as part of socialisation to monitor and curtail our actions in specific situations.  These can be quite varied so that whilst it is fine to belch loudly after a good meal in some cultures it is absolutely not fine in others!  The unconscious is able to take into account all the environmental and social factors at play and if an action is deemed  permissible by the unconscious, i.e. it won’t offend, embarrass or otherwise sabotage our social position we can do it, if it will then we won’t.  That is why we can fart, burp and scratch ourselves, etc with certain family and friends in a way that we simply would not even consider doing in another social grouping.  In addition, if we feel the need to do one of these things but it would not be acceptable we will either remove our self or repress the impulse! Your own personal boundaries of nose picking have not been defined.   For some reason, probably a lack of sanction when you were small for  doing it, your unconscious has not learned to monitor and repress this behaviour in situations where it is not acceptable or desirable.  I never saw you picking your nose in our sessions and I think that is because at some level your unconscious was aware it would not be appropriate to do it in front of me.You said that you feel a need to make sure your nose is clear.  I don’t doubt that, but it is like smoking, checking your phone or any habit.  If we feel we can or may do it, then we are more likely to feel the need to do it. Another example is scratching your nose or removing an eyelash in your eye (think of astronauts – they simply cannot remove they helmet so they have to learn to put up with the discomfort until the natural self-cleaning function of the eye removes the lash).  Life models whilst posing are another case. People can only be a life model if they can overcome the natural desire to move, fidget and constantly adjust position.  Because they know they must not move it becomes easier to remain stationary – £10 an hour to spend in the pub is the student’s best motivation for self-discipline!! In order to change your habit it will require spending some time deciding first if you really want to!  If you do, you need to think about what circumstances you can and cannot do it.  Then you need to self-correct to the extent that when you feel the need to clear your nose you either determine firmly that you will not do it, or else take yourself to somewhere private that you may do it – for example the bathroom. If you find yourself mindlessly exploring your nose you need to firmly stop yourself or remove yourself to where you can do it.  It is as simple as that.  Correcting any form of behaviour is about ceasing it as soon as you become aware of it and if necessary continuing it in an appropriate place or time. Let me know you thoughts on this.  And remember you are the only person in control of you.  You have shown as a person that you have an enquiring and active mind but most importantly that you want to be the master of your own mind, body and...

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